The Crack-Up

Dear E. Jean:

This winter, the man I was dating was in a serious car accident. He’s now paralyzed from the waist down. Though his recovery (at this point) is still uncertain, he hopes to return 100%. I’m torn. I love him. I’m very physically attracted to him, and continue to be attracted to him as a person. But I’m unsure, considering the change in his life. Should I honor my own needs and attempt to move on with my dating life?—Smashed Up

Smashed, My Smithereen:

To hell with your tear-jerking pap about whether you should “honor (your) own needs.” The chap has arms to hold you, doesn’t he? A heart? Ten fingers? Two lips? Come on, Woman! Stick with the man you love! The fellow’s in a wheelchair. If you want to know how lascivious a man in a wheelchair can be, watch Coming Home. I will refrain from offering the wonderfully steamy “blow-by-blow” details in this family-approved publication; all I will say is that Jane Fonda was still enjoying an orgasm when she and John Voight won Oscars for…