Dear E. Jean:
Hi, I am a male (whatever that means); and I don’t seem to fit in.
I’m not particularly attracted to other males and I’m not particularly attracted to women. (Except for you obviously, nobody is immune to your charms). I’m really only attracted to people who are attracted to me. I don’t want to be the pursuer in a relationship, but I’m also not submissive. I just want to be pursued. I’m attracted to attraction.
It’s almost like unless someone pursues me, I’m not interested….but if they pursue me expecting me to be submissive, then they won’t be interested when they find out I’m not.
I’m not half bad to look at, so it’s not like nobody’s interested in pursuing me. But it’s almost as if someone pursues me, they won’t be interested; and if I have to pursue them, then I won’t be interested. Does that mean nobody is really interested in me?
Is this a thing?
My wife and I are just not a good fit. She’d like me to be more submissive; and we just end up butting heads. Have you …
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